Can you be any more self-righteous? Even in the most perfect circumstances kids can and will have problems. Having a father isn't any kind of guarantee against developmental problems. Would you have spouted this same kind of crap if she came here and said something like "I am single mother because my husband died"? I am suddenly reminded of the person that told me that my son wasn't autistic and just needed an exorcism. There is being helpful and being judgmental. You are the second. and have probably done more harm than good with your commentary.